Online Self-Help Course

Change Your Fetish

On this website I offer an online self-help course aimed at those who don’t want to have this fantasy. This is for those who want to take one step closer to being the person they want to be, to understand themselves and their psychology, and to improve.
I teach 3 very simple principles:

1. There is a cause.

There is a reason why you have this fetish. It’s not genetic. It’s not an unchangeable part of you. It’s caused by the mechanism that forms all fetishes – the eroticization of deep-rooted feelings/emotions. In this case, it’s the eroticization of inadequacy – it forms as a way to turn feelings of inadequacy into sexual pleasure.  

2. This root cause can be healed.

You can heal this deep-rooted sense of inadequacy. It’s complex though; it’s originally formed in childhood, with many factors throughout development leading to this. There are also many present-day factors, which are probably making it worse right now. But, there are a few simple methods for overcoming this, and anyone can do it by themselves.  

3. By getting rid of the root cause, you get rid of the fetish.

By healing this internalized inadequacy, there is nothing left to eroticize. The pleasure from this fetish fades away until you get to the ‘tipping point’, where the pain becomes greater than the pleasure. The truth is, for most people, cuckolding feels heartbreaking. It’s a very painful gut-wrenching feeling. There comes a point where you feel that, and when it gets greater than the pleasure, you are simply no longer aroused by this.
I know how it feels; it’s not a good feeling. I want to help you understand that it’s caused by a simple mechanism which is under your control. It’s also an opportunity to look deeper into yourself, and unlock a new realm of self-understanding so you can learn why you are the way that you are, and improve.
Unfortunately, no-one wants to teach this. Partially because this is an embarrassing area – but also most people take the ‘just accept it’ approach. They want to make it clear that societal standards of what’s ‘normal’ shouldn’t force you to change. I agree, but that’s no reason to deny people the freedom to make their own choices. I took a stand after discovering these principles and applying them successfully, because I knew there were thousands of men out there just like me that didn’t want to learn how to accept it, but instead wanted to learn how to change and take their life one step closer to their ideal.

Course Structure

The self-help course is designed to be completed over 4 weeks. It consists of a series of informational videos where I guide you through the entire process, start to finish.



This section breaks down the way in which this fetish forms, as an eroticization of subconscious inadequacy, so you can have a deep understanding of everything that contributes to the formation of a fetish. I talk about other fetishes too, because they form in the same way (and you probably have others). I also talk about the role of ‘conditioning’ in strengthening arousal over time – studies show that conditioning can shape fetishes and even stop them from being changed. Lastly, I discuss the first thing people jump to when they want to change this, and why it’s wrong (and what you can do). There are two extra videos on fetish-changing methods developed by behavioral psychologists, which have shown clear success (but I personally don’t like them. They don’t get to the root cause, and offer no insight into your psychology or the rest of your life. I included them just because of the evidence, and it’s not up to me to decide what to include.)



This week is a step-by-step explanation of the root cause of the fetish, and the consequences, focusing on the ways in which it affects your life outside of this fetish, because these things will continually reinforce it and the fetish will never change otherwise! Plus an in-depth solution to all of this, and a 3-hour bonus video of a method to deal with this, so you can stop this mechanism in its tracks and start to take back control. The subconscious inadequacy that causes this fetish will affect your life in different ways, and it’s important to take control of those if we want to heal it. That’s what this week focuses on, as it’s the first thing that needs to change.



This week examines the way the root cause of the fetish formed. You need to know this so that you’re aware of exactly what you need to change. Childhood is the root cause for everyone. We discuss family, parenting, physical discipline, as well as not having privacy, attention, control, or security; all of which can be major factors in the cause. Parents play a huge role in who we grow up to be: common causes are if your father was unemotional/absent/too busy, your mother was smothering or critical, and your parents were needy, angry, or narcissistic. By understanding this, you can learn which ’emotional wounds’ you need to ‘patch up’, which heals the pain that the fetish sexualises.
Culture also affects everyone. Do you feel left out? Culture has a huge influence on who we are, when we’re constantly bombarded by messages in society that we’re inadequate. And for most people, relationships, long-term relationships, and marriages are where this gets specifically related to this fetish. Being cheated on in the past can be a cause; but you need to know what to do about it. You either attract ‘crazy’ girlfriends that you’re avoidant to, or distant/cold girlfriends that you’re too needy to, because of your attachment style, which is one of the causes of your fetish. We’ll also explore sex, and issues relating to sex life, including the lack of sex in long-term relationships.



In the first part of this action-focused week, it’s important to understand the role of porn in this fetish, because porn can be a big part of the problem. Watching porn when you don’t want to is a compulsive behaviour that will prevent healing, so we need to solve this practical side of the problem first, which will give you faster initial results, and not only help you understand the role of porn in this fetish and your life, but also get over this problem for good so you can become the master of your actions, take control of any compulsive behaviour and live a healthy, happy sex life.
The second part of week is all about solving the deeper problem, psychologically, so you can remove the fetish at its roots, which we studied in weeks 1/2/3, and kill the core (instead of living in denial and constant self-restriction). You will connect with who you really are and find authentic confidence from that.
This is about solving the problem for good so you can never look back, and move on to a new chapter of your life. You will learn methods to heal the subconscious, connecting with the root cause and releasing all the deep-seated emotions associated with it. This is what makes it permanent.

Move On With Your Life.

Change Your Fetish, And Change The Rest of Your Life, Forever.


Contents and Video List:


Week 1: The Science Of Fetishes

1.1: Conditioning
1.2: Subconscious
1.3: The Simplest Way to Heal Inadequacy
1.4: (optional interruption) Behaviorist methods
1.5: (optional interruption) Behaviorist methods (#2)


Week 2: The Root Cause

2.1: Shame
2.2: Internalization
2.3: Control and Release
2.4: Disconnection
2.5: Self-Connection
2.6: Needs
2.7: Bonus: Non-Violent Communication (external link)


Week 3: Your Psychology

3.1: Childhood
3.2: Development
3.3: Expectations
3.4: Culture
3.5: Relationships And Sex
3.6: Attachment Styles
3.7: Self-Understanding


Action And Permanence

4.1: Porn
4.2: Reconditioning
4.3: Willpower & Urges
4.4: The Self
4.5: Serotonin + Social Side
4.6: Externalization
4.7: Positive Internalization
4.8: Neuronal Gating

You might not understand the process yet – that’s because I haven’t taught it to you yet! It’s everything you need to know, to change your fetish from its roots. Each section is backed up by books or studies, so you know what to rely on.  
Each sub-section should take between 10 minutes and half an hour to complete, meaning that each stage should take a few hours per week. This is designed to be completed over 4 weeks, although it’s surely possible to complete this in a couple of days if you’re crazy and do it full-time!


When you buy the course now, you’ll get 3 very special bonuses – a total value of £397 – included free!

Bonus 1: Links to 9 Hours Of Lectures By John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw was an expert in the field of subconscious inadequacy and these talks are a gem worth sharing. He only briefly mentions the link to fetishes – this is mainly just about the root cause itself.

Total Value: £199

Bonus 2: The One Habit That Changes Your Brain

Do you ever get stuck in your head? Do you have elaborate fantasies, or imaginary conversations? This video is about a powerful way to overcome subconscious inadequacy: Mindfulness.

Total Value: £99

Bonus 3: Unlocking Your Inner Sexual Dominance/Confidence

A lot of people ask me ‘How Do I Be More Naturally Dominant/Confident In Bed?’. This is the answer. Become naturally confident and feel 100x sexier in bed with this video!

Total Value: £99

Extra Bonus: Ebook Bundle

4 fully referenced PDF eBooks come included with the course (also available separately). Based on my original book ‘The Psychology Behind The Cuckold Fetish’, these books serve as a detailed look into the causes and effects of the cuckold fetish – and what you need to do to change. Total Value: £19.99 each, or £79.96 in total.

Book 1: The Science of Fetishes
How do fetishes form? What causes a fetish? Why you, and not everyone else?

Book 2: Subconscious Inadequacy
What it means about you. The root cause, your psychology, how it affects you and your life, and how to change the parts of your life that reinforce this.

Book 3: Childhood, Development, Relationships
How it’s caused in the first place. The parts of your life that formed subconscious inadequacy and your fetish. Overcoming them; healing the root cause.

Book 4: Change
Building on your discoveries in the first 3 books, this is a guide to change. You use what you learned to take the right action as it relates to you, overcoming your personal psychology.

Stop Fighting Yourself

Be free from the struggle, forever.



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This is literally the best information I have found on the internet or even discussing the topic with various therapists. It explains so much and I am grateful!


Anonymous Testimonial

I wanted to say how much sense everything you’ve touched on is making to me. I’ve been to therapy for porn addiction And it was nothing but drawn out and left me wasting money. This is cutting to the chase and is great.


Anonymous Testimonial

I swear, before we even got to the ‘action’ part, my fetish was 80% gone. You were totally right about the insights being as meaningful as the action. It was like I had just snapped out of it. Thank you so much Connor, you are a wonderful being of light!


Anonymous Testimonial

I would just like to say I was very close to not purchasing the membership. I thought this couldn’t possibly help me. I am only on stage two and it has been three days and I am loving it. The information provided has taught me so much about myself. It explains why I am the way I am and will finally give me the ability to unlock my potential… Thank you very much for this very in depth and helpful material. Worth every penny.


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